Molida (Timmy)

• If you face a competition, before caring about the matter of win and lose, ask the real you what you want for yourselves and the ones you care of.

• You can love anyone; however, you should be with the ones with whom you can enjoy the rest of your days.

• Once you start pretending to like someone/something, you may find it guilty to stop pretending.

• To keep a good memory, you may take pictures, record videos, write it down in your diary, keep the stuffs, and so on. One more method is to let your heart feel it. Once it is saved in your heart, this memory with accompany you for the rest of time although you lose all the pictures, videos, diary, and stuffs.

• To face a specific situation, people have their unique styles. Don’t suppose that the way that a successful person select will exactly suit you. Study is a good example; imitating the outstanding students can’t guarantee that you will be outstanding as them.

This semester I took Speech 20 class which focuses on interpersonal relationships. The twelfth edition of “Looking Out, Looking In” by Ronald B. Adler and Russell F. Proctor is the book that is used in this class. I find that the stuffs I have learned are really practically useful, so now I would like to bring you a small piece that I quote from page 285 of this book. Hopefully, you may consider using it somehow.

Just as gardens need tending, cars need tune-ups, and bodies need exercise, relationships need ongoing maintenance to keep them successful and satisfying. […]

[…] Researchers have identified five strategies that couples use to keep their interaction satisfying.

• Positivity: Keeping the relational climate polite and upbeat, and also avoiding criticism. […]

• Openness: Talking directly about the nature of the relationship and disclosing your personal needs and concerns. […]

• Assurances: Letting the other person know-both verbally and nonverbally- that he or she matters to you, and that you are committed to the relationships.

• Social networks: Communication with others can provide support and relief that helps relational partners understand and appreciate one another. Friends, family, and co-workers also provide companionship that takes pressure off the relationship to satisfy all the partners’ needs.

• Sharing tasks: Helping one another take care of life’s chores and obligations make life easier and reaffirms the value of the relationship.

Every type of relationship can benefit from these maintenance strategies […].

Here are stuffs I want to share.
On my birthday this year:

• There are 21 people wishing me, including my parents, brother, and my precious friends.
• There are 14 people wishing me through phone.
• There are 2 people wishing me by emails.
• There are 6 people wishing me by instant message.
• There are 2 people wishing me by posting in my blog.
• There is a person sending ecard to me.
• There are 2 people being with me in the first second of my birthday.
• There are 5 people being with me in the last second of my birthday.

Thanks so much for everything. It does mean a lot to me.

I am really really delightful. In addition to many valuable wishes I get, I experience 2 unexpected things.

The first one caused me surprised. I got a phone call, but no1 talked to me. I almost hanged up, yet a beautiful birthday song was played. I listened to it silently till the end, and then my friend Rady and Kosnak wished me.

For the second one, click here

To me, everything just recently happened, but why did it end in such a short time? It was just like a short dream I had.

I got to know X accidentally when I was surfing the internet. I was pretty interested in X; something, then, told me that I like X. After that day, I usually went straight to my pc to be with X as soon as I came back from school. I did enjoy having X in my days. I laughed badly by the jokes X brought to me. I smiled unconsciously in front of the screen alone because of the romantic tone I could feel, yet there were also times I became sad and upset because of X. X partly succeeded in convincing me to believe in the existence of true love and to believe that the will to love can cause miracles to occur. However, I know that it is not true in this real life.

Nothing lasts forever, so does the good time I had with X. Sooner or later, it has to be ended, so I decided to end it yesterday. I do not regret that I spent time with X, and I will keep this as a good memory. If you were me, I think you would like X, too.

And so we talked all night about the rest of our lives
Where we’re gonna be when we turn 25
I keep thinking times will never change
Keep on thinking things will always be the same
But when we leave this year we won’t be coming back
No more hanging out cause we’re on a different track
And if you got something that you need to say
You better say it right now cause you don’t have another day
Cause we’re moving on and we can’t slow down
These memories are playing like a film without sound
And I keep thinking of that night in June
I didn’t know much of love
But it came too soon
And there was me and you
And then we got real blue
Stay at home talking on the telephone
We would get so excited and we’d get so scared
Laughing at ourselves thinking life’s not fair
And this is how it feels

[Repeat 1 (3x)]

I have never come home as late as last night. I did look at the time shown in my car before I stopped the engine; it displayed “11:23”.At least I got home 37 minutes before a new day came.

I joined my second cousin’s wedding last night. The party went a bit late so that I could not leave the party until around 10:40pm. After leaving, my elder cousin drove me to his parents’ Donut shop because I parked my car there and went to the party with him and his parents. I then had to drive home alone since my cousin and his parents had to take different direction to their home, too.

On the way back home, I had to spend around 15 minutes on the freeway where I have to drive with the speed of not less than 60 mile per hour (96.56 km/h). I did not use to be on the freeway alone; before whenever I drove on freeway my beloved brother used to sit next to me and keep telling me to drive carefully because the speed is so high, but last night I was absolutely alone. Plus, the weather was terribly cold even I did turn on the heat. The temperature was 53F which is equal to 11.66C. Sometimes my hand touched the window accidentally, and I could feel as if I touched the ice. I turned on the radio to make myself not to feel too lonely, yet I turned lonelier when I heard the song played on the radio. It was the song called Winter. “This is the coldest winter night that I could never forget…This is the lonely winter night that I could never forget.” Can you imagine how I felt while driving alone in the cold weather and hearing these sentences?

To tell you the truth, I felt so sad and lonely when I was accompanied by no one. I cannot imagine the reaction of my parents if they know that their immature, little girl drives so fast on free way alone at almost midnight. I do not want to grow up; I wan to be just a little kid who is always be with family and friends. I, however, told myself to be emotionally strong to face the real life. It is just the beginning. The next episodes are waiting for me.

Yeah! Today is the best day of my beautiful second cousin; she gets married to the one she loves so much and so does him. Ok! Let’s get to the point. Today I am hurt and hurt again.
The first hurt took place when I had a small talk with a girl who is also my far relative I have never met. She asked me about my age. As she known that I am 17, she questioned if I have a boyfriend. I just honestly told her that I did not have one and had never had, too. Can u guess what her reaction was? She was so surprised and laughed badly, and some words came out;” Oh my God! It’s strange!” Oh oh I just quietly wonder whether most people suppose that a seventeen year-old girl like me should have or should have had a boyfriend.

More than unfortunately, not so long had the first one passed, the second one occurred. In the bribe’s room were the bride, the bridesmaids, the flower girl, and some female relatives, including me. We were getting our hair done by two professional guys. If you have once watched the Taiwan movie called The Magician of Love, I can tell you that these guys are as cool as the main actor, Arts (tou ya she). However, I was hurt by one of them. That dull man asked the bride if I was a flower girl. My Buddha! Do I look that young?

Hey do u guys need a flower girl as me in your wedding? lolzzzzzzzzzz

P.S.: Flower girl is a little girl who carries the flower at the wedding (similar to Koun On Derk in Khmer wedding).

Wish you get the correct response in no time! Enjoy it!